No.10-When you’re talking to a woman at a bar she should be your main focus. Stop giggling at your friends making faces behind her back, don’t check your cell constantly and never scan around the room for other people to talk to or hit on. Pretend that she is the only person in the place for the next couple of minutes. Keep good eye contact, but don’t stare deep into her eyes. It’s creepy.
No.9-Speak like a normal person.An important lesson a guy can take from online chat is not to just speak in terms a woman would relate to, but don’t speak in terms she would have little interest in hearing. For example, if the conversation turns to your job, make the explanation as generic and simple as possible. No need to go into every excruciating detail about every facet of your job.
No.8-Don't oversell yourself.Same principles apply; don’t try too hard to showboat yourself as the perfect guy.This isn’t a job interview. Save the PowerPoint presentation; she will draw her own conclusions about you through the course of the conversation.
No.7-Use humor Ask women the important traits they look for in a guy and they’ll all rattle off “a sense of humor.” It seems so simple -- keep it light and keep it funny. Meeting people is an uncomfortable situation for men and women alike, but if a guy can keep a woman laughing, it eases the tension and shows her that there is probably no need to be worried that he's a lunatic.
No.6-Smile.You spend all that cash on teeth whiteners, at least show off the fact you’ve got all 32 of your choppers. A simple smile will ease all of her fears that she might not make it out of the bar alive if she shoots you down. Smile when she is talking and look like you are enjoying the conversation -- even if it’s boring you to tears
No.5-Be in the right frame of mind,Every visit to the local watering hole doesn’t have to be about picking up women. Sometimes it’s fun to just hang back and watch your friend crash and burn. If you don’t feel like making conversation, no one is forcing you to -- just relax and take in the scene. If the beers loosen you up a little, give yourself a little liquid courage, then by all means start striking up some conversation.
No.4-Start a conversation Besides a witty opening and a well-intentioned compliment, it’s always good to have a back-up plan for where to take the conversation after the “What’s your name? Where you from?” well dries up. Take notice of something about her and bring it into the conversation. Maybe she is wearing a company logo on her jacket or drinking a particular beverage that looks very much like windshield wiper fluid. Start the conversation rolling by asking her questions that may lead to other questions.
No.3 - Sit up straight.Drop the invisible suitcases that are weighing your arms and shoulders down and stand at attention. Roll your shoulders back and keep upright. It makes you look even taller and women love a strong, tall male suitor. Remember that your body language and nonverbal cues are incredibly important in first encounters.
No.2 - Know when to end the conversation.Just like you don't have to chat online for hours at a time, a guy doesn't have to monopolize a woman's entire evening by bending her ear for hours on end. She wants to hang out with her friends or maybe even talk to other people over the course of the night. Make a connection, talk for a few minutes, get a phone number and say: "Maybe we will talk later on in the night, but if not, I'll give you a call."
No.1 - Have a wingwoman.It doesn’t hurt to have female friends. Seeing a woman in a group of men is reassuring to other women. If possible, introduce the female friend early in the conversation and make it obvious that the two of you aren’t linked romantically. Mention her in passing and even use her as a conversation starter. Hopefully she starts a conversation with your wingwoman and it keeps her around for a while longer -- long enough for you to figure out how to move this conversation to an online chat because you are so damn nervous.
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